"but children are very adaptable, and changes become ‘the new normal’ quicker than you’d think." <--- Honestly very good life advice in general. Why do we overcomplicate things??
If you're willing to share, are any of your children on the autism spectrum?
I ask because our oldest is. (He's 20 now). While he CAN eventually adjust to change, it has always been exceedingly difficult.
I get that my experience is not everyone's but in our house making changes to this degree might be unquestionably needed and good...but they certainly were neither easy, nor quickly implemented.
That’s a great point Justin. I was aware as I wrote it that of course it isn’t true for all families. I will add in a line to that effect! No, as far as I’m aware neither child is on the autism spectrum. I would say that like most children though they like stability, and change isn’t usually welcome (!), but like another commenter mentioned it sometimes feels like my own apprehension about their reaction is more of a barrier than the actual reaction once I steel myself to introduce the change!
This is very true. I had worried for some time that my youngest doesn’t do regular chores (he has some developmental challenges and I’ve been slow to ask things of him). But I’ve had some recent health challenges that have meant I’ve started asking a lot more of him, and it turns out he’s totally amenable and capable. I was the one holding us back!
"but children are very adaptable, and changes become ‘the new normal’ quicker than you’d think." <--- Honestly very good life advice in general. Why do we overcomplicate things??
If you're willing to share, are any of your children on the autism spectrum?
I ask because our oldest is. (He's 20 now). While he CAN eventually adjust to change, it has always been exceedingly difficult.
I get that my experience is not everyone's but in our house making changes to this degree might be unquestionably needed and good...but they certainly were neither easy, nor quickly implemented.
That’s a great point Justin. I was aware as I wrote it that of course it isn’t true for all families. I will add in a line to that effect! No, as far as I’m aware neither child is on the autism spectrum. I would say that like most children though they like stability, and change isn’t usually welcome (!), but like another commenter mentioned it sometimes feels like my own apprehension about their reaction is more of a barrier than the actual reaction once I steel myself to introduce the change!
This is very true. I had worried for some time that my youngest doesn’t do regular chores (he has some developmental challenges and I’ve been slow to ask things of him). But I’ve had some recent health challenges that have meant I’ve started asking a lot more of him, and it turns out he’s totally amenable and capable. I was the one holding us back!
Yes! I can completely relate to that.