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emma rogers's avatar

For the soon to be mama -- I wish I’d waited to buy things until I actually needed them (one day delivery is a big help here). I thought I’d need everything for every possible situation and for every possible iteration of my kid. My newborn actually didn’t need shoes, my 3 month old didn’t need a swim suit, and my one year old outgrew the snowsuit before she ever saw snow.

Also, shower every day. That may be my bigger piece of advice. Even if your baby cries for five minutes while you quickly shave your armpits, a shower every day gives you an opportunity to prioritize yourself in one small way, so you can still feel human in those early days.

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malatela's avatar

*Advice*

For labour: Buy adult nappies. My waters broke before I got to the hospital so I would have ruined the car if not for them! Great for after as well, as they stay in place better and are more comfortable than the giant pads and mesh underwear the hospital will provide.

For after labour: I knew it would be hard, but it was a lot harder than I thought it would be. I think I underestimated how quickly I would recover from childbirth. And recovering from major physical trauma whilst getting very little and poor quality sleep is that much harder! I don't mention this to scare you but to set exceptions. The reality is that for the first 6 weeks you will be in pure survival mode. Research shows that most pregnant women have unrealistic expectations about what life will be like after having a baby, and that having realistic expectations about what life is like postpartum is better for your mental health! https://theconversation.com/helping-new-moms-return-to-exercise-and-leisure-supports-their-physical-and-mental-health-182024

If breastfeeding: It hurts at first. That's totally normal. Sometimes it's because the latch is wrong but even if it's right it'll still hurt! There are various theories as to why but I think it's because it takes a while for your milk to come in, and that means the infant is providing a lot of consistent suction for long periods, which causes pain. Once your milk comes in, it just takes a lot less suction to trigger let-down, and then your nipples have an opportunity to heal. So my advice is that if breastfeeding is important to you, just know you might have to power through those first couple of weeks and it might be rough at first.

Also, however your baby is fed, take advantage of the drop-in sessions for weighing with the health visitors. It's very reassuring to see growth happening and know your baby is being fed enough.

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